An interview with Jane
So you want to say something first, right?
I would like to preface my response by saying there are some men who are beyond help. I have no problem with geeks; I've spent the majority of my life with them. BUT I've also found there are some people who are so bad at human relations that I don't think they can learn. I think they are missing an empathy gene.
They, however, may simply not *want* to learn. I'll assume that the readers of your site *do* want to learn, and, if that's the case, that's half the curriculum. So I have high hopes. : )
OK. Describe yourself at the time of the experience you're going to share.
Recently out of long-term relationship, interested in dating, not focused on settling down.
Describe what a guy did to turn you off, and why it turned you off.
I met Randy at work, and the more I got to know him, the more I liked him. We could talk easily and I loved his sense of humor. But he took SIX MONTHS to ask me out! And by that time, I was seeing someone else exclusively. Had he asked me out even a few weeks earlier, I would have said yes, and who knows what would have happened.
I understand why he might have waited so long: Not confident enough? Thinking I'd make the first move? Wanting to get to know me as a friend first? I've experienced this before. It's like the fungus approach: just hang around, don't stick your neck out, see what happens. It's not very flattering. I wished Randy had stepped up and asked me earlier.
Let's go for a bonus question. Describe a weird/creepy guy in your life, and what one change might help him.
Calling without leaving a message is creepy.
My loudest message to shy guys is to step up if they're interested. Don't be afraid to be interested. If she's not, you can move on.