An interview with Gwendolyn
Describe what a guy did to turn you off, and why it turned you off.
I can't think of an exact story. It seems that it's more like the chemistry is not there, and then the things I don't like about the guy get emphasized. I have gotten used to all kinds of things that normally gross me out: smoking, smoking pot, acting like an asshole, bad kissing, unappealing smells -- just because I liked the guy a lot. However, there are particular things I don't like that have happened to me: a guy not listening to me, a guy sending me a picture of his erect penis while we were innocently IMing, a guy being really, really wimpy and pandering, not standing up for his view in a conversation, etc.
Describe something a guy did that annoyed you, and why.
If a guy is clueless that there's no connection and keeps trying, that's beyond annoying. This speaks to a general personal issue as well, though, because it means I'm not being seen, which bugs me no matter who it is.
Describe the best experience you had with a guy, and why.
The best experiences I've had with a guy have been when the connection is there. The conversation goes smoothly, and I don't have to think, I don't feel insecure and I can tell he doesn't either. The connection can be emotional, or sexual or intellectual. If it's there, these foster good experiences.
One of the best experiences I had just last week. The guy I'm dating now came over for dinner. He told me in advance that he would bring everything and meet at my place since I was working all day and he had the day off. He wanted to make it easy for me. He came up my stairs with the most delicious looking dessert--exactly my taste--and we don't know each other well. I still don't know how he could have picked something so dead on. He prepared this great dinner for me. It was sloppy and fun, and he taught me how to prepare this certain kind of pasta, which he knew was something I wanted to learn. It was very sweet.
After our interview, you wrote back with more. What extra did you want to say?
I really think it comes down to a chemistry thing. Of course, consideration and compassion are amazing things, but with someone you don't desire, they can be annoying. So I'm back to that you can't break it down into do's and don'ts.
There is common sense stuff that people should just know, I think: Don't pick your nose, don't eat like a slob, don't fart and belch, don't pee on her bed, listen to her, watch her face, ask her what makes her happy, ask her what she's feeling, thinking, etc.